One of the most uncomfortable questions that singles get asked at holiday events with family is: when are you going to get married? It’s distasteful, embarrassing and powerful enough to bring on an anxiety attack. When the special dates approach, many people seek counseling just to be able to deal with the inquisitiveness and inappropriateness of the well-meaning people who love them.
According to recent statistics, there are about 100 million unmarried adults in the United States. That’s 36% of voters and 44% of the workforce. What this means is that for the first time in history, there are more households headed by single people than households comprised of married couples with children.
There are about 18 states that are considered ‘unmarried majority’ states, and that number is continuously growing. The marriage rate has also dropped by 50% in a relatively short period of time. People in the US now spend most of their adult lives unmarried and marriage has become more of a transitional stage.
If you find these facts appalling, you really shouldn’t. What it means is that modern people are deliberately choosing to marry at an older age and divorce at the first sign of trouble. Also, people have a much higher expectation of what they want out of life. Most want happiness and adventure and don’t see how marriage fits into that plan when you’re young. But obviously there’s a lot more to it than that. What has really added to the amount of singles is that our lives have become increasingly much more complex and demanding. This has made finding and maintaining a relationship even more challenging than it was just a few decades ago.
The accelerated, and much needed, evolution of women in the latter part of the 20th century has also made a difference. It wasn’t until the 80s and 90s that women were awarded equal rights within the marriage. This has allowed women to realize that they now have many options and there’s no rush to settle down like there was a hundred years ago.
However, we live in a coupled world where at many times the singles can feel left out, especially around the holidays. Still, singles are the first to talk about the advantages of not having to worry about getting dumped or knowing for sure that you’re not married to the wrong person.
Is this growing trend only limited to the United States or is it part of a worldwide revolution? Find out now.